I recall the days I would be in the office and see a mom with her baby out running her daily homemaker errands and think to myself “Why can’t I be home with my baby too, this isn’t fair?”. The truth is that I am not the only one struggling with seeing my child for only two hours each
day before she is soon off to bed just to start all over the next day. If that is you and you desire to be home again or for the first time, let me tell you it is possible.
As you may already know I currently take care of Vera full-time and work a full-time job. In 2014 I began my journey doing both mom and bread-winner. It has been a challenging ride and I am learning all the time on ways to be a better mom and person.
The Search Begins
It was now just Vera and I that summer. My mind was racing not sure what I was going to do as I was used to being a full-time homemaker. The full-time income in our house had came to a screeching halt and now I was left to pick up the pieces and put this puzzle together. As a homemaker my duties were to take care of Vera, cooking, cleaning, and budgeting so I wasn’t completely lost when it came to handling finances. I told myself that there was no way that I would be working outside the house and I searched day and night on how I could continue to stay at home while paying the bills. We were renting a townhouse not to far from the strip and it wasn’t the best neighborhood but it was where we were. I was looking for answers from family to the internet on what the next step was going to be. The pressure of paying next month’s rent was coming on strong. Was it all about to boil down to finding a job outside the house and now searching for childcare for Vera?
Unfortunately I would love to tell you that I found a perfect solution to staying home with Vera but I would be lying and I wouldn’t be writing this today. In October 2015 I started a full-time job and enrolled Vera in full-time childcare. It was the hardest thing I ever thought I had to go through. I was having anxiety on a daily basis being away from home and leaving her with complete strangers. “Nobody could possibly take care of my girl better than I could”, I would think to myself. I was still in denial and motivated to work from home.
I left the the first job and was home for about a month just to find myself back at work again. Is this where I would be? Am I really going to be stuck leaving the house to go to work everyday just for someone else to watch my child? Don’t get me wrong, over the last year and a half Vera has been in loving hands. I am truly grateful for all the close friends and family that has stepped up and sacrificed their time for my pride and joy.
Humbled Living Situations
In October the same year I gave up the townhouse and moved in with my grandpa to start saving money. I was there for about nine months and appreciate the hospitality that he showed Vera and I. For two weeks after we left we stayed in a weekly which was short lived as I than moved in with my dad and step-mom. Here we slept on a couch for about six months which I again am extremely grateful that I was able to keep saving money. I no longer qualified for any financial assistance and was pretty much now feeling what it was like to be financially stable. Although I didn’t have to pay rent or utilities so that helped a lot with the saving.
My mom moved back from Washington in November 2015 and was planning on getting a three bedroom where Vera and I would be welcome to move. In March 2016 that is where we would be heading. Two bedrooms all to ourselves and a nice comfy bed to sleep on. I pay only $200/mo to help with some bills and have been able to continue to save.
Enough is Enough
My time and energy over the past year has been absorbed more from work than anything that I really value. I am so grateful that I have a job and that I am able to provide for my family. I don’t want to seem as if I don’t want to work but rather believe that there is a better solution out there where I can financially provide for my family and be the teacher to my child.
As each day goes by my research on the topic has grown stronger and have taken some much needed steps to move towards making progress including creating “my story defined”. I know this process will have it’s struggles but I also know that it will be worth it in the long run.
Have you been trying to find the solution to how you could work from home? What steps have you taken so far to reach your goal of being a work at home mom?