Sometimes it seems that way. Doesn’t it? Allowing others to determine your attitude.
You have a goal to do something and someone comes wobbling in after you throwing around their words.
And what do you do? You want nothing more than to ignore the insult but instead allow it to affect you and your choices.
Later in the day, you realize not all the words you exchanged were as wise as you would’ve wanted them to be. And the other people that have nothing to do with the confrontation got all the leftover negativity.
It seems to me that maybe, just maybe, you’re allowing others to determine your success.
The truth is, it doesn’t have to be that way. The reason I can say this is because I am guilty of it myself.
I am guilty of allowing others to determine my attitude
And they may not even know it. They don’t need to because it’s not their responsibility.
If they want to have a bad attitude it’s a choice if you’re going to allow it to affect you or not.
That’s why I say that I am guilty of this very thing. Just this week I was having a good day with not much of a challenge and before I knew it I was sitting on sand sinking m way into a rut. And it was nobody else’s fault but my own. No matter what challenges I am faced with I don’t have to allow it to affect me.
It’s affecting how you treat people
You know darn well you have allowed a situation or person determine your attitude based on how you then treat others around you.
You are a stay-at-home-mom to 2 kids and you had a day at the zoo from the comfort of your own home. You’re 5-year-old decided he was going to flush an entire roll of paper towels down the toilet and you didn’t find out until after the water was pouring down the stairs. Your 2-year-old then decides she is going to take off her diaper and use your brand new sofa as a potty (and mind you, it wasn’t pee). Then your dog decides he would go into your closet and use your expensive heels as a chew toy. And to top it all off. Your husband comes home and has a challenging day at work. What are you going to do?
A) You can either allow your entire day to affect how you act towards your husband by welcoming him with nagging and complaining. Telling him how he is not helping you clean up the kitchen and just goes straight to his video games.
B) Or you choose to welcome your husband, asking him how his day was. Clean up the kitchen without complaining. Still have enough patience left to give your kids a hug and kiss even after the chaos they created.
Which do you think would bring a better result?
If you want to have a good day it’s your choice
You could have seen your day as a bad day and only looked at everything wrong that happened. But instead, you chose to persevere and choose scenario B which ended your night with joy and peace. Your husband was grateful for the great dinner and you not nagging him. Your children fell asleep in peace as their mom had unconditional love for them even amidst their choices. When you go to bed knowing that you did a job well done. That’s where my satisfaction comes from.
“The master said, ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!’ Matthew 25:23
Some people feel as if keeping their mouth shut instead of telling someone off equals weakness. I believe it’s noble and wise. I would rather go through my day knowing I turned the other cheek and stood my ground not allowing anything to determine my choices vs allowing me to be a ship in a storm blown around by every person that says something to me. Remember each day you have the choice to determine your attitude and actions for that day.
What will it be for you? Have you been allowing others to determine your attitude and how you live?